What is Domestic Abuse?

What is Domestic Abuse?

Domestic abuse is an incident or pattern of incidents of controlling, coercive, threatening, degrading and violent behaviour, including sexual violence, in the majority of cases by a partner or ex-partner, but also by a family member or carer.

There are many different types of abuse including:

Physical Abuse

Physical abuse involves the use of force that results in harm or injury to another person. It can include hitting, kicking, slapping, or any action that causes physical pain or impairment. This type of abuse often creates a cycle of fear and control in relationships.

Financial Abuse

Financial abuse involves controlling or misusing a person’s financial resources without their consent. This can include restricting access to money, stealing funds, or manipulating finances to create dependence, often leading to economic hardship for the victim.

Digital / Online Abuse

Digital abuse involves using technology to harass, control, or intimidate someone. This can include monitoring online activities, sending threatening messages, or sharing private information without consent, often leading to emotional distress and isolation.

Psychological/emotional abuse, also known as coercive control

Psychological and emotional abuse is when a perpetrator uses words and non-physical actions to manipulate, hurt, scare or upset you. Coercive control is described as an act or pattern of acts of assault, threats, humiliation and intimidation, which is used to harm, punish or frighten.

Sexual abuse

Sexual abuse involves any unwanted sexual contact or behaviour, including coercion, manipulation, or assault. It may involve physical force, threats, or exploitation, leaving lasting emotional and psychological effects on the victim.

So-called honour based violence (HBV)

Honour-based violence refers to acts of violence, often against women and girls, carried out to protect or restore a family’s perceived honour. This can include physical abuse, forced marriage, or even murder, typically driven by cultural or societal pressures related to behavior and reputation.

Forced marriage

Forced marriage occurs when one or both parties are coerced into marrying against their will, often under pressure from family or cultural expectations, disregarding personal choice and consent.

Female Genital Mutilation (FGM)

Female genital mutilation (FGM) is the partial or total removal of external female genitalia for non-medical reasons. It is often rooted in cultural, religious, or social beliefs and can cause severe physical and psychological harm to women and girls.

“The person that I thought was meant to be by my side for the rest of my life, became somebody that I could not recognise and that caused much harm to my life. Daania

You may be experiencing domestic abuse if:

Someone is criticising you and putting you down

They treat you so badly that you’re embarrassed for your friends or family to see

They ignore or put down your opinions or accomplishments

They blame you for their own abusive behaviour

They view you as property or a sex object, rather than as a person

They try to stop you from seeing your friends and family

You’re concerned they might hurt you

They don’t respect your wishes around sex or intimacy

Domestic abuse can happen to anyone, regardless of age, gender, economic status, race, ethnicity, religion, sexual orientation or education.

If you think you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, you can talk to us. We’re here to help.